Wednesday, November 27, 2013

A Gentleman and A Lady - Part Two

As I said in this post, I recently read this blog post about how to decide if you are dating a real man or a boy. It gave 10 key points on how a real man would treat his lady, and I fell in love with it. Because ever single women deserves to have a ‘real man’ in her life; someone who knows how to treat a lady and the relationship they have together. This got me thinking though, what about a woman. What kind of qualities should a women posses to be a ‘keeper’ in a man’s eyes. A Gentleman and A Lady, part two.

A man wants a catch, the one he couldn’t possibly let go. The one he would do anything to reel in. So here are 10 signs to look to know that you have a lady and a keeper. This was obviously wrote by a man, which is what I love truthfully. A real man knows what he wants in a woman and these are amazing qualities in a woman. I added my own two cents in their though, so if you want to read the article in which I found this, then click here.

1. She doesn’t look for attention. A woman who doesn’t look for attention, are the women who are worth giving attention too. Women who are content with their own self confidence and don’t look elsewhere for validation, shine from within and will add to a man’s life.
2. She can hold a conversation.  Believe me; it is important to have physical attraction in a relationship, but it isn’t the most important when you’re talking about something that is long term.  A woman, who truly keeps your attention, makes you excited to see her, or just talk to her – every day- is one worth holding onto. A man wants a woman who is intelligent, well-spoken, witty, and funny with killer looks. No women is worth settling less for, not a single one.
3. She is comfortable in any situation. In a relationship you’re not going to be alone all the time. A man wants a woman who will be able to live life to the fullest, while they are by their sides all the time. Meaning, a man can bring you to any social event and leave you alone if he needed to go and talk to someone or grab a drink. He wants a woman who will be comfortable in any setting; family events, outings with friends, double dates, and even nights in.

4. She doesn’t start petty arguments. In a healthy relationship, two people should be able to work out their complications with mature conversations. A man wants a woman to not throw their past in their face or use it as ammunition against you, especially is she has already forgiven your for the mistake you made in your past. Relationships are never an easy road with no differences; when a woman can handle a conversation with maturity and work through the differences, she is a keeper.

5. She encourages you. A man wants a woman to stand behind him and encourage him to chase after his goals and dreams. Everyone in life will seem to lose their fire and drive at some points in life, when there is no one to share them with. You, should be, the first person he runs to when he has exciting news.

6. She is your sunshine on a gloomy day (and everyday). Are you excited to talk to her when you wake up first thing in the morning? Or kiss her on the forehead when you’re together? Does seeing her name pop up on your phone during a rough day make your forget about all of the worries of life? Does being with her take you into your own world where nothing else matters? If you said yes to all the above, hold on to that woman.

7. She puts in effort for you. (To me this is the same thing as #9 in the other post and I love this.) You have to put in effort for the relationship to last, both of you. Because a relationship isn’t about you, it’s about the person your with, and making them happy. Because seeing them happy will make you happy, and vice versa. Don’t stop the romance in your relationship. It can be as little as getting your nails and hair done, so you feel good, to look good for him. But it is more than that too, put in effort to make each other happy. Take time for each other.!

8. You can laugh together. Seriously, this is such a big one. A man wants a woman he can laugh with. Life needs laughter, love, and happiness; so does a relationship.

9. You can cry together. Not everything is sunshine and rainbows. Times will get tough, things will get hard, and you will need to be each other’s support team. You need to be there for him, and he needs to be there for you. You can feel stupid to cry in front of him, and he should be able to fully let loose and emotionally let go in front of you.

10. You have similar views for the future.  The future is there, whether you are ready for it or not. Your life should never be dictated by someone else. There are things that you want in your life and there are things he will want in his life. Are they the same? If you want the same thing in life, at the same time; great. If you don’t settle thinking he will just forget all about it, cause neither will you. Long term relationships are all about compromise, with that you will have a long and happy future.

Someday I will find my prince charming, whether that is today, tomorrow, or later in life. When that man walks into my life, I really will be grateful for these articles. Because it has opened up my eyes to what a good relationship should be like. I can say that I am grateful for all the bad relationships and relationships that just didn’t work out, because it will sure make me grateful for the day that a real man walks into my life and sweeps me off his feet. He will be my gentleman and I will be his lady.

James Michael Sama write some amazing posts, he gives different kind of advice and things that a man and a woman should take some time to read. Click here to check out his blog. This post was made all because of my love for the post that I came across.

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