A Gentleman and A Lady

I came across this article blog post about the 10 ways to know your dating a real man and I absolutely fell in love with it. I have had my fair share of ‘bad boys’ in my life and in all truth, I am ready to date someone who has the qualities of a ‘real’ man. Then this got me thinking; well what qualities does a girl posses to be a ‘keeper’ from a guys perspective. So I’m going to break down this little shindig into a two part series, A Gentleman and A Lady.

10 WAYS TO KNOW YOUR DATING A REAL MAN

 Because we all want a real man in our lives, not some silly boy.

1. A real man values more than just your looks. He will value your personality, kindness, intelligence, and who you are as a person in general; as well as the beauty he sees before his eyes. ß Nothing gets more old then the same compliment time after time, because all he can see is the beauty on the outside of you.
2. A real man will never be intimated by your motivation. He will have goals for himself, but he will want to be with a woman that has set goals in her life as well. He will never feel intimidated or threatened by a woman who goes after what she wants in life. ß He will stand by and support you throughout the process and steps in achieving your goal. He will not be that person who keeps you from pursuing your dreams.
3. A real man will have more interests than just you. Of course, you should be a priority in his life, but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t have a life as well. He should have interests, friends, hobbies, goal, and aspirations. His life shouldn’t revolve his entire life around you. ß To value your time together, you value your time apart as well.
4. A real man will give you answers. No matter how awkward or uncomfortable a situation is, he will approach it, and you, with respect. He will not dance around answers or make excuses. If something needs to be talked about, between the two of you, he will be more than happy to explain the entire situation at hand. ß Yes.!
5. A real man is direct. He won’t play mind games or manipulation in your relationship. He will be direct, to the point, and honest with you; but he will do it with kindness too.  ß I always feel like someone is ashamed and hiding something, if they will not be direct and honest with you.
6. A real man will trust you. As long as you haven’t done anything to betray his trust, he will not be paranoid, or snoop around invading your privacy to make sure you’re not doing anything ‘bad’. He will be confidant in the relationship that you two have together.  ß In my eyes a relationship is build on a foundation of trust.
7. A real man is cool, calm, and collect. It should be understood that part of what comes with having a girlfriends, is dealing with her getting hit on. It doesn’t matter if you’re out with friends together, at dinner, or even out with her friends; she will at some point in time be hit on. Instead of letting his primate instincts prevail and beating his chest like an angry gorilla to scare off competition, a confident man will calmly make his position known, and understand that you’re still going home with him at the end of the night. ß I love that part of his section.!
8. A real man will show you respect. Nothing signifies an empty shell of a man more than someone who disrespects women, animals, or children. A real man will treat you with respect that you deserve, never force you to do anything you’re uncomfortable with, and never mistreat you. ß I believe this to be so true.
9. A  real man will put effort into your relationship. Boys are generally apathetic and just looking for one thing from a woman. A man will do what it takes to make you happy, both inside and outside of the bedroom. Your happiness, is his reward. ß Because a relationship isn’t about you, your happiness, your wants; it’s about wanting to make that person happy and do everything in your power to make his/her life wonderful.
10. A real man will make you be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are. He will strive for greatness and therefore inspire others to strive for it as well. As Mark Twain said – Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. ß Perfectly said.

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